This weekend I experienced some things I had not come across in a while. They were both about money and success, but they were other people’s views, not mine. One I understood, disagreed with, but understood. The other, left me feeling like I just wanted to get out of the conversation as fast as possible.
I’ll begin with the first one. “I can’t earn any more or it will affect our pension.”
Earning over a certain amount means your pension will be reduced, but only on a percentage of what you earn. So whilst you may lose 30cents for every extra dollar you earn you will still be 70 cents in front.
I understood they felt that way and that many people do. I also understood that the age group the person who made this comment is in is very set in their ways, so I did not say anything.
For the most part, whilst your ‘free’ pension money may go down, overall you will be earning more, so it still makes sense to earn as much as you can.
The second experience left me speechless.
I won’t go into it in detail, but suffice it to say I experienced an insane amount of envy aimed at me. I was spoken to very condescendingly and negatively purely because I have a blog that is going well and a publishing contract. Basically for becoming successful at home.
The person who behaved that way I have known for a very long time. It was the first time in a long time I have wanted to run from a conversation. Thankfully I have children who interrupted and gave me a reason to leave.
Why am I sharing these experiences? What do they have to do with anything?
2 things! The first comment shows me how our own thinking can seriously limit our earning potential. How much money you have is a direct result of what you think and do.
The second thing is that no matter how others treat us or react to what we are doing it is up to us how we react and the thoughts that follow.
Had that sort of thing happened to me a year ago I would have dwelled on it, spoken negatively to myself and quite possibly been in a slump for some time. Now however I realise it is their issue, not mine.
How I think and feel is my choice. No one can make me feel bad. They can say whatever they like, but the reaction is my choice. And I am so glad I now have the strength within me to choose to not let people affect me.
I am choosing to be happy and successful.