Monday, November 15, 2010

This weeks moment of clarity

This past week I have been really unwell. I have had a few problems, but one particular problem knocked me flat for a few days and at a terrible time for me. My husband’s brother got married on the weekend and I was so sick, I nearly fainted a few times, I felt so bad because I wasn’t able to enjoy their day with them properly. I was there, but so dazed I was almost not there.

What’s my point?

It made me look at my life again. I have been full steam ahead with projects of mine which is good, but I got my priorities all out of whack. I have been so focussed on getting a few things done that I forgot about everything else.

This week, being unable to do much for very long without passing out gave me the opportunity to look at how I am spending my time.

I have a few things I want done before the end of the year. I am studying and wanted to finish the first part of my diploma by the end of December. I can ask for an extension, so if I feel I won’t be able to complete it, all is not lost.
I am renovating my house and have some new furniture arriving the week of Christmas so need some rooms completed in the house. Also we want to sell it, so are trying to get it all done as quickly as possible.
I have a new project which came up about a month ago. It is very exciting and I have been working hard on it, but I have not been using my time to the best of my ability for it.

Besides those three big things are my daughters. Lately I have been feeling like I am not spending enough quality time with them. I have been so focussed on finishing the house and things that I tend to want to do things myself simply because it is quicker.

I realised this week I need to slow down and spend more time with them. They are what is most important to me. They are what really matters. Yes, my other 3 big priorities affect them and will benefit them long term, but I do not want them growing up without a relationship with me and feeling like their parents were there, but not really if that makes sense.

I happened to be reading my newsfeed on facebook just a little while ago and I happened upon a blog update from I am wicked cheap about her project 365 days to a wicked great mom. She is aiming to spend some quality time with at least one of her kids every day.

It really hit home to me and is something I am going to aim to do from now on. I am still focussed on my other priorities but I need to ACT on my priorities, not just say my daughters are number 1. I need to make them number 1!

This week was a moment of clarity for me. I have these from time to time and this week it was so clear what I need to change in my life.

Are there things you need to change to reflect your priorities?

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