Monday, November 1, 2010

Can you provide? Getting an education

I have been thinking a lot about being a parent, in particular and at home parent. I’ve watched those close to me separate/divorce/become widows/have their partner permanently disabled/lost their job/partner lose job etc... and it got me thinking...

Besides an emergency fund, could you provide for the family if your partner was no longer around/unable to provide? I know so many people who could not. They have no qualifications, no work experience, no idea of how to provide financially.

My parents always encouraged us to get an education, something to fall back on if anything were to happen. We were encouraged to be at home mums, hence the “if something happens”. Also the possibility of no kids scenario.

Many people feel once they have kids they can’t do study or need to wait until their kids are much older to get a qualification in something. This is not the case. It can be harder to study with kids but it is not impossible. Besides, the earlier you get that qualification, the quicker you can earn money with it.

The traditional going to school full time is not the only way to get an education. There are many courses by correspondence. Many schools will also help work out a plan for you, working around your children to enable you to go to school part time. I have had a few friends do this and they now have employment they never thought they’d have.

Many occupations can be done from your home. Once you have finished your study you may be able to set up a business from home. This is especially beneficial if you can work it around your children. If anything happens to your partner you would have immediate income, which is not affected by kids school/activities etc...

Getting an education and qualifications also gives a sense of confidence. You have power. Why? Well, you know you can take care of yourself and your family.

There are so many ways you can make money and so many professions you can do from home.

What’s stopping you?

Work out what it is that is holding you back. How can you change that?

Just too hard with the kids? Could you organise a babysitting club so you can have some no cost child free time?

Not enough time? Keep a time diary for a week. Basically write down what you are doing all the time. How long did you spend on different things? It might surprise you to see you are wasting 10 hours watching TV. I don’t even own a TV anymore. They drain so much time. Do you spend way too much time surfing the net for nothing, just because you are bored? Could you alternate your current work times so you are not travelling in peak hour? This could free up a few hours a week.

No support/no one believes you can? I know you are capable of more than you can imagine. It is simply a matter of applying yourself and pushing through. It can be hard with so much negativity, especially when it is those closest to you who put you down. Can you distance yourself from them a little? If it is friends who are always negative, you don’t need them. They are not really your friends. You want positive people in your life.

What other excuses/reasons do you have? Maybe we can help you find a solution. Leave a comment to let us know.

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  1. Hey, thanks for linking up! I agree. We have so many more options now, for study, and it definately is possible with small children.

    I think it depends on how badly you want it. Many people say they don't have the discipline to study from home. If you really love what you're studying then it won't be hard to put in the effort. If you're only half-hearted, then you're probably always going to struggle with motivation.

    That's how I see it anyway :-)

  2. It is so true. There are so many options and it is totally up to our desire to achieve.

    Thanks for hosting.

  3. My mom went to school full-time to get an honours degree while raising 3 kids.

    To me, it's possible, just freaking hard.

    I also agree that both partners should work, exactly for that reason -- security.

  4. I studied full time with a new baby, during his nap time/ at night. Worked my butt off! Worked partime jobs while he was a toddler. When he was at kindy got a job that paid less than unemployment by the time you took out childcare and travel!!

    But got my experience, saved, then took a year off to upskill. Finally got a full time job with flexible hours when he started school so I can work around him when necessary. Now he is 8.

    So can I provide, hell yes, I am a single parent now, I pride myself on knowing that my son will have everything and anything he ever needs, he has uni savings, etc for later. (Not the same as everything he wants, mind!)

  5. FB your mum is amazing. It is hard, but it is possible.

    Anon, that is a very inspiring story. You must have been so determined and should be so proud of what you have achieved! :)

    lol, I am sure your son will appreciate not getting everything he wants now when he has the choice to go to University.


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